Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Kate's Week 13


I know it's late, but better late than never. :)

Sometimes going back is the only way to move forward

Today while doing some research on OkCupid I found this Storify that I made about OkCupid last summer for a class I took. How funny that now a year later I am writing a story about these same issues that I was exploring back then.

I thought I would share some of them. Really helping pull my focus today..

            Although dating online is different from face-to-face interactions with your intended, it might not be as different as you thought. True dating online is awkward and uncomfortable and sometimes a little stressful, but so is real life. Dating online forces users to create their own dating rules, while at the same time reinforces dating mate preferences that already exist to us. On the one hand people do not always know what to do when they meet people online so getting to know someone can be frustrating; by just jumping into a date you must find the style of dating that works for you. I would like to explore how men date online and what their experience is like to make their own rules and figure out how to navigate through the online dating world.





^ This testimony to online dating is interesting because it claims that the only way to find a match online is to be a "boring stereotype of your gender" Lindy West writes. West claims that dating websites have different advise for men and women. For example men are instructed to post more photos because women like being able to feel like the have a sense who you are whereas women's advice for posting pictures is to not put only head shots because men want to check you out. This is interesting advise because it assumes that men should show who they are through their photos and women should show what they look like through their photos. Why do men's pictures of themselves tell who they are and women's only show what they look like? Looks like Women intelligence is still measured by their looks or that as long as they are beautiful they don't have to be intelligent.


Also, If you YouTube “Shit People Say _______” and add in “online dating” or “dating,” a mass amount of videos pop up making fun of online dating, what girls say on first dates, why men never get replies and the list goes on and on. I found this fascinating when I first found it and it is really helping me fill in the blanks to my story.

It is funny how now that I am at the end of this semester, I am back at where the idea for writing this story first started. The reflection of my real life-dating spree. Now that I am back at the beginning it is really making me think of who my character is. Who have I made her? Who should she be? All things to think about if I ever finish this and make it into a book!

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