Kate's Week 9

I know it's late, but better late than never!

            This week to inspire some writing I decided to take it back to the inception and visit some guys OkCupid profiles to get me in the mood. This is what I have found:

Every man works for a start-up company in “The City”

Every man hikes, skydives, is well traveled and ski’s

Every man take pictures with their dogs if they have one

Every man is not looking for anything serious or is ready for marriage—there is no in between.

Every man is laid back or sarcastic

Every man takes pictures of their faces while looking down perfecting a close up of their nose and forehead

Every man writes at least two paragraphs for the movies they love, three graphs for books and four for their fav. Music.

Every man loves the outdoors

Every man makes lists like this to explain themselves

Every man seems to already be in a relationship with themselves

Wow. Why does it seem like every man on this website works at a start-up? I really think I should put a little section in about the dating pool on Cupid and where dating has got Stef in the past. But this also got me thinking about adding some more in about her past dating experiences.

I tried to add some more history into the story about Stef’s dating history and what happened that made her feel this way and want to date again…I was thinking about adding into the intro of the story, but I’m not sure its working. I think I like the content but it takes you out of the draw and pull that the intro currently has.

this is what I came up with…

Three months ago I went on a dating spree. After dating another one of my brothers friends and it coming back to bite me in the ass again, I decided to create some dating rules for myself, or really just one rule. I never thought I needed rules before but since I had been single for a while and had a few awkward experiences, I thought some rules might help.

            The number one rule, after much debate with myself, was "Don't date anyone you or your friends know." Some might say this can really deplete the dating pool around them, but trust me when I say that its a good thing!

            Before my dating spree, I was dating my brothers best friends best friend, who was apparently "perfect" for me. One day I was sick and he wanted me to tell him how I felt about him. Since I was sick, I didn't want to talk-but he wanted an answer, so he pressured me into telling him through text messaging.

            Then it hit me: I didn't want to date this guy. We might have been friends but it just wasn't working out intimately between us. After telling him this, he decided to tell me how he knew I was one of those cold hearted bitches all along  who just chewed men up and spit them out for fun, all through text messaging.

            Which, maybe I was, but I was also just trying to be honest with him. It had been three months and we just started being intimate together when I realized that I wasn't really attracted to him, I was attracted to the man he presented himself as, but more as a friendship. Being intimate together felt like a struggle, like work. I wanted to feel magic, or at least a connection. So I ended it.

            Needless to say, it did not go well. He said he was shocked that I actually liked him in the first place and thought I was the "one." How could he though? We barely knew each other. He said he knew that it was too good to be true because women are evil liars, two-faced and power hungry; I'm not surprised that your true colors came out, I was waiting for them.

            I have this idea of a man that would actually pursue me. I know all these women where men actually date them, bring them flowers, almost court them in a  way. I'm not saying that I want to be treated like a princess, but I am a generous person. I take care of the people I love and spoil them. I just want to find a man that will reciprocate that and also find me irresistible, warts and all—is that so much to ask for? I've never had that in a relationship, ever.

            After we broke up we saw each other all the time, and every time we did I would later get a text from him talking shit about what a man-eater I was and how if we could just talk we could work everything out. He really must be crazy though.

            And that's when I decided that I'm done. Done dating men who know my brothers, my best friend, my mom or anybody I knew or they knew. Its just too much hassle and annoyance if it all goes to hell.

            The idea of a dating spree sprung from Mom's Christmas gift last year of a membership to PerfectMatch.com, the second year in a row. My first thought was: how do you get someone who is not a psychopath to go out with you? Even people I know are psychopaths...aha, like the guy I just dated.

I think I will keep playing with